You’ve no doubt been at a multigenerational family dinner when one of the young ones says he’s off to some place like Egypt or Turkey. The elders always chime in with, “When you’re shopping at the bazaar, be sure to bargain. It’s expected.”

Haggling over price may be culturally ingrained in other parts of the world, but it hasn’t been part of the American character. Now, though, perhaps because of the influence of Internet auctions, and a perpetually flooded inbox with big-name retailers promising an extra 30% off plus free shipping, our growing obsession with getting a bargain may actually be turning us into insufferable cheapskates. Call it the bargain backfire.

Recently I decided to redo my apartment and so put an assortment of unwanted rugs, lamps, tables and chairs on Craigslist. I’ve used the popular bulletin-board site since it was founded in San Francisco in the 1990s. But it had been a while since my last foray. I didn’t realize that Craigslist has become a hotbed of pushy tightwads trying to get something for nothing.

No sooner had I posted an item from my apartment than an email came in offering 50% of the asking price. Aggressive tactic, I thought, since the ad had only been running for 40 minutes. Another item, priced at $100, brought out a relentless lowballer so avaricious that, when he finally said he could do $70 but not $80 without his wife killing him, I told him that if the stability of his marriage is riding on 10 bucks then maybe he should save his money for counseling.

Another would-be buyer’s opening gambit was to say that she had a disabled friend for whom my slightly fashionable side table (paid $275, asked $50) would be just perfect, but that she would need to factor in paying for a train and bus ride, so “what is the absolute lowest you’re willing to accept?” I said I was trying to raise money for a friend who needed a heart transplant and asked what was the absolute highest she was willing to fork over.

Bargaining exists in an ethical gray area, and most Americans much prefer the clear black and white of a price tag. “We’ll beat anyone’s advertised price” is a mantra of television advertising for local businesses. The keyword there is “advertised.” If a price appears in print, it’s as if God himself has seen it. Didn’t our elders teach us that if we ever go to pay for something and the cashier says that the item has the wrong price tag on it, we should insist that the store is morally obligated to sell it for the tag price, since it was their mistake?

Antipathy to bargaining is why Americans quake with anxiety over the purchase of an automobile; always afraid they’re going to be, shall we say, taken for a ride. The whole charade of dealerships artificially inflating the asking price, then having a sharky salesman say, “Come on, we both know you’re not going to pay that much” is a tedious and dirty process for us straightforward types who think it would be much simpler if they priced the car fairly in the first place.

Back on the apartment front: After a few days of being hit by aggressive lowballing I realized that whatever good the sales might do for my redecorating budget was far outweighed by the unpleasantness of the bargaining. When the haggling email exchanges reached their crescendo, I informed my adversaries that it would bring me more pleasure to leave the items on the sidewalk to be scooped up by a passerby than to accept the buyer’s paltry offer.

And that’s exactly what I did in the end. The items had been advertised fairly (had I wanted them, I would have gladly paid my own asking price). But in the effort to get something as cheaply as possible—perhaps for the satisfaction of feeling they’d won a battle—my would-be buyers only ensured that they didn’t get the item at all, while some lucky fellow got it free.

There was one glimmer of hope in the whole experience. A recent college graduate from upstate came over to check out a large oriental-style rug for his new room. We spent considerable time rolling it evenly and figuring out how to get it into his car on a snowy day, and we hadn’t even done the deal yet. So when it came time to reach for the wad of $20s in his front pocket, the kid handed over the full asking price. “I was going to try to bargain you down,” he said, “but I hate it when people do that to me.”

I smiled and didn’t even count the money.

This piece originally ran in the Wall Street Journal, January 20, 2015.

5 thoughts on “Let’s Not Make A Deal

  1. I recall reading the original and was equally entertained this time as well. I’m departing for Cuba this week where if one does not induce the fine art of haggling he’ll be met with obloquy like no other.

  2. I sold a car recently via Craigslist. Two interested parties ended up in a bidding war with each other, and I sold the car for $500 more than my asking price.

    During the process, when other people interested in the car asked me if it were still available, I said yes, but the current offer was more than the advertised price. Some of them were shocked, even offended, that the price should be higher than the original listing. One even asked if that were permitted!

    I’m not big on haggling, but I am big on letting the market determine the fair price for an item.

  3. Agreed, Mr. Trotter.

    I failed to mention that one joker offered to take the vehicle off my hands for $1000 less than my asking price. When he e-mailed me later, after the car was sold, I told him what it went for. He said he wouldn’t have paid more than $500 less than my initial asking price.

    Makes me think of the cheapskate jerks Christian had to deal with.

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